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Embodiment and Sex Coaching

Embodiment: "the act of being in the body" and how that is related to sex

Our bodies are places full of space, wisdom, beauty, energy, calmness and peace. So much life is going on when we are connected with our bodies. However, most of us spend most life in our minds, ruminating what happened and worrying about what will happen. The only reason why we are in our minds that long is because we were not taught how to feel safe in our bodies and we have labelled what happens in the body as dangerous, scary, dirty, not productive, too much or ugly, among others.

 

The process of dis-embodiment is a coping mechanism we develop when we are children. There are moments when we feel overwhelming emotions that we are not taught how to regulate. If we do not find the emotional support and safety to process those feelings, we shut down to avoid going there again. The way we do that is by putting a label, that our mind associates with a red flag. This strategy supports us in feeling safe and in control of our responses and our world while we grow up. Some of these sensations or feelings that create discomfort are fear, grief, joy, sexual arousal, desire, anger, sadness, pain or anxiety.

 

However, by suppressing these uncomfortable emotions, we cut the life in us, life loses its colour and there is a sense of monotony, of: is that everything that is to life? The process of embodiment is a path of wholeness, a journey to reclaim all those pieces that separate us from our bodies. Embodiment is about nurturing the connection with our bodies and integrating everything that we labelled as non desirable or dangerous. The outcome is us being more loving, more attuned with ourselves and with life, beauty is appreciated in the most simple things and life becomes more peaceful and enjoyable. Don't get me wrong, we feel, even more than before, but there is space for those feelings, they do not overwhelm us and our relationship with them is different. We stay present and calm in the midst of the storm.

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Your capacity to have better sex, connect with your partner and feel more pleasure and for longer is directly correlated to your capacity to stay present in your body aka, your level of embodiment. Sexual energy or life force energy (Shakti or Chi) is a potent energy and staying present with it its fundamental for its mastery. Knowing how to work with it and channel it in whatever endeavour you want to pursue in life is a life changing skill that will surely open up incredible potentials in your life.

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Are you wondering if embodiment and Sex coaching might be for you?

Embodiment and sex coaching might be for you if:

  • You wish to be more present and calm in the face of difficulties.​

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  • You would like to experience the full range of life.​​

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  • You want to feel more energised in your daily life.

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  • You want to feel more pleasure and have great sex.

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  • You want to experience full body orgasms, either as a man or a as woman.

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  • You want to explore what your erotic blueprint and sexual desires are.

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  • You want to have better connection with your partner and the people you love.

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  • You want to own your boundaries and stay confident in them.

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  • You are curious what gifts your body have in store for you.

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Sexual scene in an Indian Temple - Tantra
Male naked chest
Method

Most of the tools and practices that I offer to work on embodiment come from the world of Tantra, Yoga and great individuals. Some of the tools are:

 

  • Guided meditations.

  • Breathwork techniques.

  • Yoga asanas.

  • Emotional release tools as taught at ISTA (International School of Temple Arts).

  • Parts and Inner Child work.

  • Embodiment tools such us Osho Chakra Breathing and Dynamic Meditation.

  • Wheel of Consent from Dr Betty Martin.

  • Erotic Blueprints from Jaiya.

  • Tantra Massage (in person).

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Each case is tailored made depending on your needs and current levels of embodiment. My focus is to create a safe space that can best support you in this beautiful journey of self-exploration.

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Practical details

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  • The sessions can be online on ZOOM or in person.

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  • The length of the online session may last for 60-90 minutes. In person sessions might take longer depending on the program.

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  • The investment for each online session is 80 €/h. For in person sessions, contact me for a customised program.

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  • The investment for Tantra Massage is 80€ per hour. Sessions can last up to 3 hours. Check Tantra massage page for more details.

My why

How does a fish know that is in water if he has never been out of it?

 

This is how I lived my life until my mid twenties, absorbed in my mind and totally disconnected from my body and emotions. Something dramatic had to happen so that I would allow myself to cry. The excitement of life came from chasing thrill after thrill, chasing the next thing, living fast, but missing the subtleties of life. Until one day it became too much. The disconnection from my body did not allow me to calibrate and stay balanced, which led me to a serious burnout 7 years ago.

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It was then that the return to my body started along with a deep healing journey. This process made me confront sexual challenges such as premature ejaculation, erectile disfunction, performance anxiety, body shame and doubts about my own sexual orientation, that I had overlooked for a long time. It puzzled me how much fear and shame was inside me around my sexuality. The path continues and I feel ready to accompany others in this courageous path of self-discovery and exploration of our eroticism.

 

Are you ready to live a more embodied, colourful and sexy life?

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